Table Talks - Youth

Simply put, Table Talks are conversation starters to help you engage in spiritual conversations with your child. Each week you will be provided with a new set of questions and separate table talks for both young children and youth. That way you can engage in conversation no matter what stage of life they are in.

Week of September 20, 2017

Wednesday September 20, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

The Holy Spirit is a subject that isn’t talked much about in the church. He seems to be a distant, vague figure who is talked about in the Bible, but we don’t know much about Him. Christians talk about God the Father and God the Son but they rarely ever talk about the God the Spirit. So, we are going to look at who the Holy Spirit is and what He does in the lives of Christians.

SG Main Idea: When we daily seek the Holy Spirit, He strengthens us to follow God, make right decisions and do great things for others.

Main Passages: 1 Corinthians 2:10-11, 6:19;  Ephesians 5:15-18; John 14:16-17; Romans 8:9-26

Table Talk Questions: 

What did you know about the Holy Spirit?What ways do you think the Spirit has led you in the past?How should the fact that the Holy Spirit lives within us affect our daily lives?If the Holy Spirit is guiding our lives, what kind of thoughts, desires, actions and emotions will we more and more display? (See Philippians 2:12-16; Colossians 3:1-17)How can you tell if the Holy Spirit is guiding you to do something?  What are ways we can be open to the Holy Spirit’s guidance throughout our day? What are some small and big things the Holy Spirit could guide us to do in our daily lives to show Jesus’ love to other people?

Squad Goal:  PRAYER EXERCISE: Think about ONE of the neighbors in your school or community that God has placed in your life to love.  Take some time to pray individually that the Holy Spirit would show you how you could specifically love that person through your actions/words, then take a minute in silence to listen to what the Holy Spirit guides you to do.  Share what God guides you to do for the person with your small group so you encourage each other to follow through.  Continue pray DAILY for God to show you how to love your neighbors to see what God guides you to do!

Suggested Memory Verse: Romans 15:13

Announcements and Reminders

Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media below! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

Everyday Parent Meeting is October 11th from 7-9pm! We are talking about "How do I get my student to talk to me?"!  Also, we will be serving dinner for $5 starting at 6:30pm.  To RSVP for food or childcare please email Stefanie Bunting (sbunting@mckinneychurch.com)

February 1-7, 2017

Wednesday February 1 2017 Drumline Week Three

MESSAGE OVERVIEW:

A drumline is not a drumline if there is only one drum, and so there must be multiple drums.  The same idea goes about the purpose God has called us for.  This week we look at the power of numbers.  God has placed around people for a reason, and He desires for us to be in community.  The truth is there is great power in numbers, in community, and we must look around to see who is in our drumline and to see what we are tackling together. 

PASSAGE: Romans 12

MAIN IDEA:  God moves mightily when we work together

QUESTIONS:

  1. Ice Breaker: What is something that you have seen a team of people come together to accomplish that they couldn't have accomplished on their own?  Or what is something you were able to accomplish with a team of people that you couldn't have done on your own? 
  2. What role do you think we play in helping each other embrace the purpose , the calling, the life, that God has given each one of us? 
  3. Read Romans 12:9-13. How would our family grow if we embraced these things?  
  4. How would those things transform our relationship with each other?
  5. Read Romans 12:14-21.  How do you think the world outside the church would respond if the church lived out what is described in those verses?  
  6. How could we help each other embrace the things we read in those two passages in Romans?
  7. What is something that our family could tackle, using our gifts and passions, that would make an impact for God and His Kingdom?  Choose one of the ideas your group surfaces and decide on one step you can take this week towards that goal

Announcements

All In - The best weekend of the spring is fast approaching! Our winter retreat All In is for middle school and high school students February 17-19.  The cost to signup is $80.  For more info, including schedule and packing list, or to signup head on over to our website: click here

Mexico Mission Trip - We are taking a mission trip to Mexico City, Mexico June 10-17.  We will be taking two teams, one a team of high school students, and the other a team of middle school students and parents.  WE HAVE EXTENDED THE DEADLINE TO SIGNUP!! SIGNUPS ARE DUE WEDNESDAY FEBRUARY 15!!.  Click here for more info or to apply!

Loveapalozza - Our upcoming event Loveapalooza date has changed! It is now Wednesday February 15! We will have Thrift Store Prom, where students come dressed in their best thrift store outfits, and a bunch of games! Same time and same place! 

Axis Parenting Teens Summit - Axis Ministries is producing an online Parenting Teens Summit that our ministry team is really excited about! We wanted to make sure you knew of it!  It is an online event Feb 2-15 and features topics from an incredible line of speakers, and best news...it's completely free!  Head on over to their site here to signup!

April 19-23, 2017

Wednesday April 19, 2017 

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2016-2017 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

Trials and struggles, both big and small, come at us all the time like waves crashing on the ocean shore.  The question is, how does God want us to respond to our trials so they can help us grow.  In James 1:2-8 God calls us to consider it a joy when we face trials because as we face them in God’s power we will persevere and God will use the trial to bring us wisdom, maturity, and godliness.

Bible Passage: James 1:2-8

SG Questions:

Ice Breaker: What is something challenging that you had to push through in your life?  What helped you persevere in that situation and what growth did you see through that experience? 

1.       What stood out to you today from Gary’s yearbook message?  What was encouraging?  What was challenging?    

2.       Why do you think we often look up to and celebrate people who have persevered through great trails in their lives? 

 

Read James 1:2-8.

 

3.       In your own words, what would you say is the big idea of the passage?

4.       How would you define joy?  Specifically, how is joy distinct from happiness?

5.       Why is it so difficult for us to respond to trials with joy?

6.       Based on this passage, how does our attitude and perspective on trials need to change so we can rejoice in them?

7.       There are at least three specific commands in these verses. What are they and how do they affect our response to trials?

8.       If you are experiencing a trial right now, how can you best respond to it? 

9.       How can we best help those around us as they face trials?

Announcements

Senior Night- We are recognizing our seniors during the Bridge service next Wednesday April 24!

Summer Calendar - Have you checked out our Summer Calendar yet? Head over to mckinneychurch.com/youth to download it.

Bridge Finale - The last Bridge of the semester is May 3! You won't want to miss out!!

April 26 - May 2, 2017

Wednesday April 26, 2017 

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2016-2017 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

Ever get upset about someone telling you the ending of a movie that you want to see? When we know the ending it changes the way we view it, and that’s the case when learning the ending of anything.  This idea even relates to our own lives.  The Bible gives us a pretty clear understanding of the end of our lives, and for those that believe in Jesus that’s eternity with Him.    Living our life with eternity in mind changes the game, it changes how we view ourselves, how we view God, and how we view our day to day life.  This week senior Katie Linnartz shares with us on how we should be viewing our life from the perspective of eternity.  

Discussion Questions:

1.       What stood out to you today from Katie’s yearbook message?  What was encouraging?  What was challenging?

2.  Why is it so hard for us to focus on the future?

3.  When thinking about heaven and spending eternity with Jesus, what gets you most excited about it?

4.  In light of eternity, the way we look at suffering changes.  How is that lived out in our day to day life? How can we remind ourselves of that?

5. In light of eternity, the way we look at satisfaction changes.  How is that lived out in our day to day life? How can we remind ourselves of that?

6. In light of eternity, the way we look at serving changes.  How is that lived out in our day to day life? How can we remind ourselves of that?

Announcements

Summer Calendar - Have you checked out our Summer Calendar yet? Head over to mckinneychurch.com/youth to download it.

Bridge Finale - The last Bridge of the semester is May 3! You won't want to miss out!!

Week of August 23, 2017

Wednesday August 23, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

Our number one squad goal is loving our neighbor, and some squads are better than others at this.  What does it really look like to LOVE? This week we continue looking at the story of the good Samaritan and see how the Samaritan met the needs of the person on the road.  The people around us have needs that need to be met, and often those needs must be met first before they are willing to listen to the message of Jesus.

SG Main Idea: Your #1 Squad Goal is to Love Your Neighbor

Main Passage: Luke 10:25-33, Exodus 4:1-5

SG Questions: 

Icebreaker: Pass out favorites list to anyone that wasn’t here last week.  How was your first day of school? 

 What is the difference between a need and a want?What are some examples of needs that people have?Do you think that certain needs have to be met before a person will listen to the message of Jesus? Why or why not?What are some needs that you see at your school? Of your friends? How could your squad meet those needs around you? Give specific examples.

Suggested Memory Verse: Luke 10:36-37

Announcements and Reminders

Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media below! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

- Don't forget to put August 27th 10:30-11:45on your calendar.  We are having our Parent / Leader Connect that morning in the Loft.  It's a tremendous opportunity to meet your student's small group leader and hear details about upcoming Fall events! CLICK HERE TO RSVP

Thank you so much for all that you do!!

January 18 - 24, 2017

Wednesday January 18, 2017 Drumline Week One

1.  What is the predominant answer our culture would say to the question, "what is our purpose in life?"

2.  Read Romans 8:28.  What does it see about our purpose?

3.  Of the two great commandments, loving God and loving others, which one is hardest for you, and why?

4.  Based of your previous answer, what is a step you can take tonight or tomorrow towards getting better at it?

5.  How does knowing that all Christ followers have been called to the same purpose make you feel?

6.  How can our family help keep each other accountable and encouraged in pursuit of Jesus?

January 25-31, 2017

Wednesday January 25 2017 Drumline Week Two

MESSAGE OVERVIEW:

God has called us into a personal relationship with Him, and has given us great purpose in our life - to glorify Him and His kingdom.  Yet, how that works in the day to day of our actual life is a lot more difficult to understand.  This week, we look at how God has given each and every one of a unique voice, a unique gifting in this drumline of the body of Christ.  

PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 12:4-7

MAIN IDEA:  Gifts + Passions = My Purpose

QUESTIONS:

  1. Icebreaker: Do you have an unusual talent? (Licking your nose, knife throwing, etc) If so, what is it?
  2. What are your gifts?
  3. What are your passions?
  4. Do you feel like you are currently using them for God’s purpose? Why or why not?
  5. What is at stake if you don’t use your gifts and passions?
  6. What does it look like for you to commit your gifts and passions over to God? How do you think the way they are being used will change over time? 
  7. How can our family encourage each other’s gifts and passions?

Announcements

All In - The best weekend of the spring is fast approaching! Our winter retreat All In is for middle school and high school students February 17-19.  The cost to signup in January is $65.  Signup Here

Mexico Mission Trip - We are taking a mission trip to Mexico City, Mexico June 10-17.  We will be taking two teams, one a team of high school students, and the other a team of middle school students and parents.  Deadline for mission trip applications are January 31, 2017.  Click here for more info or to apply!

Axis Parenting Teens Summit - Axis Ministries is producing an online Parenting Teens Summit that our ministry team is really excited about! We wanted to make sure you knew of it!  It is an online event Feb 2-15 and features topics from an incredible line of speakers, and best news...it's completely free!  Head on over to their site here to signup!

All In Weekend 2017 Overview

All In Weekend Overview

SESSION ONE OVERVIEW:

Identity.  What makes up our identity? Some would say it’s where we come from, who has raised us, what we do in life, or what our gifts and passions might be.  During this weekend at All In we are focusing in on our identity in Christ, and the in order to really understand this concept we must ask the question: “who is Jesus?”.  Understanding the person of Jesus Christ is essential to understanding our identity IN Jesus Christ.  

PASSAGE: Mark 4:35-41

MAIN IDEA:  Jesus calms the storms in our life

QUESTIONS:

ïWhat was one thing that stuck with you from the talk?

•How would you describe your relationship with Jesus? 

o(Do you know about him? Or Do you KNOW him? Etc)

•Describe God in one word.

•Explain the difference between internal and external storms.

•What external storms/internal storms have you seen others deal with?

•What storm/s are going on in your life? Have you invited Jesus into the situation?

•What areas of your life do you hesitate to invite God into? Why? 

SESSION TWO OVERVIEW:

Have you ever had one of those moments in life where you had intended to do one thing, but ended up doing something totally different? That feeling is a feeling that we all wrestle within ourselves.  We all too often know the right thing to do, the right road to take, and yet all too often we don’t.  We spend time trying so many different things to cover up our mistakes, to fill in the potholes on our road of life.  During this session we look at the reality of our sin, and the disconnect we feel between us and God. 

PASSAGE: Mark 5:21-28

MAIN IDEA:  The disconnection caused by sin.

QUESTIONS:

ïWhat was one thing that stuck with you from the talk?

•Who were the characters in the Gospel story?

oWhat do you remember about them?

oWhich character do you identify with? Why?

•Can you explain the difference between Sin and sins?

•What have you seen people try to fill their lives with? Did it work for them?

•What have you tried to fill your life with? Did it work for you?

SESSION THREE OVERVIEW:

Our life is marked by a series of events, and some of those events are life changing events.  These are the type of events that change our direction in life.  When we put our trust in Jesus Christ it is one of those moments, that radically changes our direction in life.  The power of the death of Jesus Christ on the cross and His resurrection radically shapes how we view our relationship with our Heavenly Father, it shapes how we view ourselves, and how we view the world around us.

PASSAGE: Mark 5:29-43

MAIN IDEA:  The power of the cross.  

QUESTIONS:

ïWhat was one thing that stuck with you from the talk?

ïWhat are some ways that someone has shown you that they love you?

ïWhat is something someone sacrificed for you? How did it make you feel?

ïWhat comes to mind when you think about the cross?

ïHas your understanding of Jesus changed since you got here? In what ways?

ïHave you ever decided to make Jesus your King?

SESSION FOUR OVERVIEW:

Following Jesus is a lifestyle, and it is a lifestyle that doesn’t always come naturally to us.  When we decide to follow Jesus, to truly go all in for Jesus, it requires courage, strength, patience, and perseverance.  During this final session we look to see how our whole self, our gifts, passions, past, present, and future; are to be all used for God, for His glory, and for His kingdom. 

PASSAGE: Matthew 14:22-33

MAIN IDEA:  Following Jesus with courage

QUESTIONS:

ïWhat was one thing that stuck with you from the talk?

ïPeter took a risk to follow Jesus. What risk do you think Jesus is inviting you into?

ïWhat is one thing you want to pursue in the next 3 months?

ïWhat are two things that you appreciate about yourself? (eg: sense of humor, creativity)

ïGod wants to turn your brokenness into something beautiful. What is something from your past that you think God can use to help others?

March 1-7, 2017

Wednesday March 1, 2017 All Out Week Two

MESSAGE OVERVIEW:

Our lives are filled with opportunities to be distracted.  The information age comes at the cost of being bombarded with all sorts of messages and media.  Unfortunately, all the stuff that comes at us can distract us from what really is going on.  This white noise can be used to cover up our emotions, the path laid before us becomes cloudy instead of being clear.  Sadly, this affects our relationship with Jesus, it pulls us away from hearing from Him and being transformed by His word.  Tonight we challenge our students to examine their white noise and find ways in which to remove those distractions, so that they are able to strengthen their relationship with Jesus

PASSAGE: 1 Kings 19, Matthew 6:6 

MAIN IDEA:  Distractions cause our clarity to become cloudy

QUESTIONS: 

  • What is your white noise? What is that is a distraction in your life? 
  • What is scary about removing distractions? What emotions are we masking or hiding from?
  • What is a benefit about removing distractions? 
  • What is a distraction in your life that you could remove?  How are you going to do it? 
  • How will removing this distraction grow you closer to Jesus? What specific steps will you take? 
  • How can our family work together to support one another as we remove the distractions in life?

Announcements

Spring Break - There is NO Bridge the week of March 15! 

March 8-21, 2017

Wednesday March 8, 2017 All Out Week Three

MESSAGE OVERVIEW:

Jesus clearly tells Christ followers to go and make disciples, to reach people with the message of Jesus Christ.  Yet too often we meet people in life where we have no clue where to start.  Tonight we look at three different encounters that Paul has with people from three completely different spiritual backgrounds.  Paul shows us by example ways in which we can reach those completely against God, and those that are close but not quite there.  We want to challenge our students and give them some tools to go and spread the perfect life changing message of Jesus!

PASSAGE: Acts 16

MAIN IDEA:  Walk wisely as we seek to spread the message of Jesus to the world around us

QUESTIONS: 

  • ​How is your SQ? How can you tell when it is high or when it is low?
  • Why is talking about Jesus to people not a thing we all do normally and naturally?
  • Who is someone that you know like Lydia, who you could invite, invest, and introduce? How would YOU go about doing that? (Get as practical as possible)
  • Who is someone that you know like the slave girl, who you could see their need, meet their need, and be ready to ask questions? How would YOU go about doing that? (Get as practical as possible)
  • Who is someone that you know like the jailer, who you could worship openly in front of and extend radical grace? How would YOU go about doing that? (Get as practical as possible)
  • How could our family support each other as we reach out to people with the message of Jesus? Spend some time praying for those particular people mentioned tonight!

Announcements

Spring Break - There is NO Bridge the week of March 15! 

April 5 - 11, 2017

Wednesday April 5, 2017 

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2016-2017 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

What do you do when your faith gets turned upside down, when you find yourself questioning God’s love and wondering why he seems to be so distant when you turn to him for help in your struggles? Reagan will share her journey of battling through those questions and how God helped her see in a whole new way what it means that God loves.  She will also share how understanding how wide, long, high, and deep God’s love is can completely change our perspective on the dark things we face in life.

Bible Passage: Ephesians 3:16-19

SG Questions:

Icebreaker:  What is challenging moment you had to face in your life that you were able to overcome and grow through?  

1.    Reagan talked about how we can see God like a genie where we believe that if we do good things and are a good person, that God, our Genie should do stuff for us.  Do you think people struggle with treating God that way?  Why or why not? 

Read Ephesians 3:16-19 together.

2.    What stands out to you from this passage?  

3.    What do you think it means to be rooted and established in God’s love?  How can we help each other be rooted in God’s love?  

4.    In this passage we read about the vastness of God’s love for us.  What do you think of Reagan’s thought that God loves us so much that he will to push us out of being comfortable and will use pain in our lives to help us grow?

5.    At our church we often talk about how it is okay to question God and to have doubts.  How do you think talking through our doubts and questions with God and each other can help us grow?  

6.    An aspect of God’s love for us is that he doesn’t just tolerate us, instead he delights in us whether we are doing well or falling apart.  What do you think it means that God delights in us?  Is it easy or difficult for you to believe God delights in you?  

Application:  What is a step you need to take to better trust God in your struggles that in his love he will pull you through and will help you grow in the process?  Or what is a step you need to take to trust that God doesn’t just tolerate you, he delights in you? 

Announcements

Yearbook Series - Our awesome student led Yearbook series starts THIS coming Wednesday!!

Easter Service - We will NOT have our 9am Youth Equipping Classes Easter Sunday April 16.

Bridge Finale - The last Bridge of the semester is May 3! You won't want to miss out!!

April 12-18, 2017

Wednesday April 12, 2017 

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2016-2017 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

Worship.  We love to worship.  We love singing out to God, we love the music, the rhythm behind it all, but worship is so much more than signing together.  Worship is a way of life, a way in which we stay connected to God throughout our day and week.  Unfortunately, there are so many of things in our day to day life that pulls us away or distracts us from truly worshipping God.  This week, senior Logan Dean, talks to us about simple steps we can all take to develop a lifestyle of worship. 

Bible Passage: 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

SG Questions:

  1.  Read Romans 12:1.  What does it mean offer ourselves as a sacrifice? What does it have to do with worship?
  2. What is the difference between singing in worship and having a lifestyle of worship?
  3. Read 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
  4. What does it mean for YOU to rejoice always? Is that difficult for you? Why or why not?
  5. What does it look like for YOU to pray continually? Is that difficult for you? Why or why not?
  6. What does it look like for YOU to give thanks in all circumstances? Is that difficult for you? Why or why not?
  7. Why are those three things (rejoicing, praying, thankfulness) key to fulfilling God’s plan for our lives? 
  8. Which of these is the toughest for you? What is a step forward you can take tonight or tomorrow in one of these areas?

Announcements

Yearbook Series - Our awesome student led Yearbook series starts THIS coming Wednesday!!

Easter Service - We will NOT have our 9am Youth Equipping Classes Easter Sunday April 16.

Bridge Finale - The last Bridge of the semester is May 3! You won't want to miss out!!

Week of August 30, 2017

Wednesday August 23, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

We are called to LOVE our neighbor, but who defines love? What is the ultimate example of love? If we look at our current culture the word “love” gets thrown around freely.  We see in the life of Jesus the ultimate example of love, of REAL LOVE.  Jesus lived a sacrificial life, and that’s what he calls each of us to do as that ultimate example of loving our neighbor.

SG Main Idea: Your #1 Squad Goal is to Love Your Neighbor

Main Passage: John 15:12-13, Philippians 2:5-8

SG Questions: 

What examples do you see around you of sacrificial love?Is sacrificial love difficult? Why or why not?What would it look like for you to love sacrificially at school?How can we encourage each other to love sacrificially at school and in our family?

Suggested Memory Verse: John 15:12-13

Announcements and Reminders

Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media @mckinneyyouth! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

​Have a great week!

March 29 - April 3, 2017

Wednesday March 29, 2017 

Message Overview 

This is the time of year where we all start dragging our feet a little more than usual.  We have hit the mid-semester point and are looking forward to summer.  It is in these periods of life that we often lose our focus on what is really important. Tonight, college resident, Sam Weitman is speaking to our group about what it looks like to persevere in our faith.  Our faith is a race, a race that often feels like its all uphill.  We see in Paul’s letter to the Philippians encouragement for us that as we live our faith day to day, that we get to look forward to the reality of heaven.  

Bible Passage - Philippians 3:12-21

Small Group Questions:

(1)ICEBREAKER: What is your favorite sport to play or watch?

(2) When you think about your life as a race? How are you feeling right now?

(3)  When it comes to following Jesus in our day to day life, do you feel like you are in a good place, or are you stuck? Why is that?

(4) What encouragement did you find in the message tonight?

(5) Is having heaven in our mind as the goal helpful in our day to day walk with Jesus and life? Why or why not?

(6)How can our family help each other run the best race we can?

(7)What is a step I can take tomorrow to put yourself back in the right direction?

Announcements

Yearbook Series - Our awesome student led Yearbook series starts THIS coming Wednesday!!

Bridge Finale - The last Bridge of the semester is May 3! You won't want to miss out!!

Week of May 17, 2017

Wednesday May 17, 2017 

Hey Parents! 

We hope you are having a great week! Our Youth Ministry Team is excited for our current Sunday morning series Sticky Faith.  In case you missed this past Sunday's message here it is!

During this series we want to give you some practical tools and conversations that you can have to help your student have a sticky faith.  We are getting all of the info below from the book "The Sticky Faith Guide For Your Family". 

Sticky Findings:

- We Will Get What We Are

- We Will Get What Our Kids Think We Are

- There Are Many Ways to Build and Model Sticky Faith in Front of Your Kids

Sticky Idea:

- Date Night Kid Swap

         Use friends and family around you to "swap" kids for an evening.  You ask them to watch your kids for an evening so that you can have a date night, and then you return the favor to them.  No more paying for babysitting costs! That's a win-win for both couples!

Sticky Questions:

- What are those regular faith habits that you have? Do your kids know about them? Do you talk to them about what you are learning?

- What's something in your daily or weekly calendar that you could remove to add more time with Jesus?

- How can you utilize the community around you to pour into each other's children?

Announcements

Summer Calendar - Have you checked out our Summer Calendar yet? Head over to mckinneychurch.com/youth to download it.

Summer Bridge - The first Bridge of the summer is June 7! You won't want to miss out!!

Week of May 24, 2017

Wednesday May 24, 2017 

Hey Parents! 

We hope you are having a great week! Our Youth Ministry Team is excited for our current Sunday morning series Sticky Faith.  In case you missed this past Sunday's message here it is!

During this series we want to give you some practical tools and conversations that you can have to help your student have a sticky faith.  We are getting all of the info below from the book "The Sticky Faith Guide For Your Family". 

Sticky Findings: How to Connect with Your Teenager

- It's More About Your Teenagers World Than Yours

- Family Time Needs to be Protected

- Sticky Faith Families Have Both Planned AND Spontaneous Time Together

- Favoritism May Erode Faith

Sticky Idea:

- Family Game Night

         Play different types of board games (both competitive and cooperative), serve special snacks, give out prizes and hold them regularly.

- Help Them Get Ready to be an Adult

         Do different "adult" projects together.  Take them to get your oil changed, invite them into a budget conversation, have them prepare the shopping list and take them grocery shopping, or do anything that helps set them up for success as an adult.  

Sticky Questions:

- What might motivate your teenager to learn new skills and take on new responsibilities?

- How could your time mentoring them in these new tasks build your relationship?

- What's your best current way to share with your kids your prayers for them?

- How much do you share with your teenagers about what you're praying for them?

Announcements

Summer Calendar - Have you checked out our Summer Calendar yet? Head over to mckinneychurch.com/youth to download it.

Family Lunch - We are having a family lunch after the second service on Sunday June 4! Keep an eye on our Facebook page for more information!

Summer Bridge - The first Bridge of the summer is June 7! You won't want to miss out!!

Week of May 31, 2017

Wednesday May 31, 2017 

Hey Parents! 

We hope you are having a great week! Our Youth Ministry Team is excited for our current Sunday morning series Sticky Faith.  In case you missed this past Sunday's message here it is!

During this series we want to give you some practical tools and conversations that you can have to help your student have a sticky faith.  We are getting all of the info below from the book "The Sticky Faith Guide For Your Family". 

Sticky Findings: Talking Faith to Your Kids

- Ask questions, but share your own story

- Doubt is most toxic when it goes unexpressed

- Talk about tricky subjects

- The best conversations are inspired by life

Sticky Idea:

- Current event springboards

         Use what is in the news to get your child talking and ask them questions.  Show them how the Bible interacts with current events.

- Who knows more than you?

         Help your child identify some adults in their life that they go to for advice.  Help them see that their peers typically aren't a source of wisdom and advice.

- Share your testimony

         How did you come to know Jesus as Lord and Savior? Tell your child about your faith journey. 

Sticky Questions:

- When do you tend to have the best faith related conversations with your children?

- What tricky subject are you avoiding? How could you take a small step towards tackling that subject?

- How could you help open up space for your child to express doubt?

Announcements

Stampede 2017: Truth or Dare - The best week of the summer is July 31 - August 3. This is our kickoff of the school year for middle school and high school students.  Check out our website for more info or to signup!

Summer Calendar - Have you checked out our Summer Calendar yet? Head over to mckinneychurch.com/youth to download it.

Family Lunch - We are having a family lunch after the second service on Sunday June 4! Please head to THIS Facebook page and RSVP.  That will help us get an estimate count on food.

Summer Bridge - The first Bridge of the summer is June 7! We are going an extra hour to play some crazy fun games throughout the church.  We end at 10pm.  You won't want to miss out!!

Week of August 16, 2017

Wednesday August 16, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

A hero saves the day. If you believe Hollywood, hero squads like the Avengers or the Justice League save the planet. That makes heroism seem inaccessible to most of us. But with a single question, Jesus gave us the ultimate squad goal to define the church, making hero status available to us all.  He also took away our excuses for not accessing our heroic potential.

SG Main Idea: Your #1 Squad Goal is to Love Your Neighbor

Main Passage: Luke 10:25-33, Leviticus 19:18

Discussion Questions: 

1.  Talk about a time when someone saved the day for you. How did you respond?

2.  Why don’t we reach out and get to know our neighbors? Why do we tend to keep our friend circle closed instead of open?

3.  Before hearing the message today, how familiar were you with the parable of the good samaritan? In what ways did your perspective grow or change based on the message?

4.  What would your school look like if everyone embraced loving even strangers with a Christ-like neighbor love?

5.  What group of people do you find it difficult to treat like neighbors? What would it look like for

you to “go and do likewise” for those people?

6.  Is there a person in your life right now you can take a step to love by meeting a need in their life? If so, what stands in the way of you taking action? What can you do to be a hero? How can this group support you?

Squad Goal:  Fill out the Squad Goal map.  Take a picture of it and tag @mckinneyyouth or have a parent do that! Encourage each other to have it filled out by next week!

Suggested Memory Verse: Luke 10:36-37

Announcements and Reminders

- Don't forget to put August 27th 10:30-11:45 on your calendar.  We are having our Parent / Leader Connect that morning in the Loft.  It's a tremendous opportunity to meet your student's small group leader and hear details about upcoming Fall events!Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media below! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

Week of September 6, 2017

Wednesday September 6, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

God the Father.  Maker of Heaven and Earth.  The Great I Am.  These are just a few of the names of the first part of the Trinity, so how do we begin to understand the Father’s role in the Trinity.  Tonight, we begin to look at the Trinity, and specifically the Father who created us in God’s image, for community.  Tonight we will see how the Trinity propels us to be in community.

SG Main Idea: The Father Created Community

Main Passages:  Deuteronomy 6:4; Matthew 3:16-17, 17:1-5, Matthew 28:19;  Genesis 1:26

SG Questions: 

Icebreaker  Have you ever understood something or someone in the wrong way, and then when you understood what was really going on or who they were,  it made all the difference in the world? Tell us about it.

What are some of the common ways people would describe God?  How do those beliefs about God affect how they relate to Him?God the Father created us in His image to live in community because God, in the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit is a perfect community we call the Trinity. Why do you think community has such a big impact on us?  Why do people’s actions and words have such a big impact how we think and act?God the Father has given us the ability to help each other in community to live incredible lives.  Do you think we take seriously how much our actions and words help others either thrive or struggle in life?   Why or why not?  What are ways that we can make sure our words and actions will help those we interact with see who God created them to be and live how God has created them to live?  What are some truths that God shows us about ourselves and the lives we need to live that we need to encourage each other with on a regular basis?  

Squad Goal:  As we think about how we love our neighbors who don’t know Christ, how can we with our words and actions help them feel God’s love?

Suggested Memory Verse: Matthew 28:19-20

Announcements and Reminders

Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media below! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

High School Game Night is THIS Saturday 7-10pm.  We are going to playing some fun crazy large group games.  We are bringing back some favorites like nerf wars, capture the flag, and gargoyles!! Bring a friend and get entered into a drawing for a $50 Target Gift Card!

​Have a great week!

Jack GrimesMiddle School Pastor

Week of September 13, 2017

Wednesday September 13, 2017

Hey Parents!

Every single week of the Bridge we want to send our weekly small group questions out to you! This a way for you to know a little bit about what we talk about each night, and you can use these questions to spark conversations with your student.  Also, we will send weekly updates and news at the bottom!

Message Overview:

Love.  Where does it come from? Why, out of all creation, are we the only ones that love with intentionality and purpose? Tonight, as we look at the Trinity we see the example of perfect love through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus.  We see that Jesus stood in the gap for us, and that models how we should love the world around us.

SG Main Idea: Perfect love fills the gap

Main Passages:  1 John 4:9, John 1:1-4

Table Talk Questions: 

Have you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, to stand in the gap for you? Are you trying to climb the ladder yourself through performance?When people talk about Jesus, what are some things that people often say?Is Jesus being fully God and fully man important? How does it affect your day to day life? How can you be used to stand in the gap for someone else?  How can you be a representative of Jesus? How can we encourage each other to stand in the gap? How can we do that even within our own family? 

Squad Goal:  As we think about how we love our neighbors who don’t know Christ, how can we with our words and actions help them feel God’s love?

Suggested Memory Verse: 1 John 4:9

Announcements and Reminders

Signups are online for our Small Group Lockin! The Lockin is October 7-8 and you can signup in the month of August for the best price!! Click here to signup!

- Don't forget to follow us on social media below! It is the BEST way to be in the loop on what's going on here at McKinney Youth Ministry!

Everyday Parent Meeting is October 11th from 7-9pm! We are talking about "How do I get my student to talk to me?"!  Also, we will be serving dinner for $5 starting at 6:30pm.  To RSVP for food or childcare please email Stefanie Bunting (sbunting@mckinneychurch.com)

Week of January 10, 2018

Wednesday January 10, 2018

Hey Parents!

Ever get tired of having conversations with your teenager about things that they already did that's putting them in a bad spot? What would it look like for you to have some conversations around putting guardrails in their life BEFORE they make a mistake?

Sometimes it feels like wisdom is in short supply with our teens.  Yet, we see in God's word practical ways for us to impart wisdom to our children.  We want to help our teens establish guardrails that will help them stay on the right path.

Use the questions below and the passage from Ephesians 5:15-17 to help dialogue with your students about chasing after the eternal instead of the temporary!

Here are some questions that you can talk through with your student tonight:

1.  Do you already have any Guardrails in your life that help you make wise decisions in areas like your relationships, how you spend your money, how you use technology, or how you make moral decisions?  If so, where/what are they?

2.  Do you agree that culture doesn’t value the concept of guardrails and criticizes those who attempt to live within the safety zone? Why or why not?

3.  During the message Nate read this quote by Andy Stanley, “The highway isn’t the only place we need guardrails . . . perhaps your greatest regrets would have been avoided if you had established personal guardrails.” Is there a situation in your life where you would have avoided a major pain or mistake if you had set up some guardrails? If so, would you be willing to share that part of your story?

4.  Read Ephesians 5:15-18

5.  In your own words, what does it mean to walk in wisdom (v. 15)? What are your sources for this kind of wisdom?

6.  What does it mean to make the most of the time (v. 16)? How would you say you are doing making the most of your time?

7.   What do you think it means to "be filled with the Spirit"? What effect will being filled with the Spirit have on your life?

8.  Discuss what this statement means and how it can help you walk wisely,  "In light of past experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams...what’s the wise thing to do?”

9.  If you were to take an honest look at your life, what areas of your life could you benefit from establishing a guardrail?

December 7 - 13, 2016

Table Talk Questions:

What's one of your favorite gifts that you have ever been given?

What's one of your favorite gifts that you have given?

Is learning how to give important? Why or why not?

What is gratitude? How do we express gratitude?

Is gratitude something that we do, or a feeling that we have? Or both? Why?

Jesus gives us the gift of eternal life.  How should that affect us and our gratitude?  How should it affect the world around us?

November 30 - December 6, 2016

Table Talk Questions:

In your opinion, what is the point of the Christmas season?

Of the Christmas things/traditions that you see or do, what do you feel like is something that is honoring to the birth of Jesus?

Of the Christmas things/traditions that you see or do, what do you feel like distracts or takes away from the message of the birth of Christ?

Is the message of the birth of Christ important? Why or why not?

How do we keep Jesus at the center during this season?

November 16 - 22, 2016

Table Talks:

Read: Colossians 2:6-7; Ephesians 5:20; 1 Chronicles 16:34

Do you think there are things in your life that you forget to say thank you for? Like what?

Is saying thank you to Jesus something you need to do more often?

What do you think you overflow with most often? Is it thankfulness or something else?

Do you think that taking the time to think about all God has blessed you with will cause you to overflow with thankfulness?

Do you spend more time complaining than you do being thankful? Is that something you want to change?

Do you think it’s possible to give God thanks for everything?

What are some small things you’re going to work on being thankful for this week?

Do you agree that you’re happier when you’re thankful than you are when you’re complaining?

How do you feel when you do something really nice for someone and they don’t say thank you? Do you think Jesus ever feels that way?

We have eternal life through Jesus. Is that something you think about every day? If not, do you think it’s something that you should think about every day?

November 9 - 15, 2016

Table Talk Questions:

Read: Colossians 1:10, Jeremiah 17:7-8, and Psalm 34:8

How are your roots?  Are they healthy or unhealthy?  What are you feeding your roots?

What kind of fruit do you feel like you are producing? How do you even know what kind of fruit you are producing?

What does it look like to produce good fruit in your school?

What does it look like to produce good fruit in your family?

What does it look like to produce good fruit in your ministry?

What is unique about the fruit you produce?  Where has God placed you that is unique to you?

What’s a step of obedience you need to take this week to produce good fruit?

November 2 - 9, 2016

Discussion Questions:

Character:

1. What aspects of Jesus’s character impress you the most?  Why?  

2. If you could fully embody any aspects of Christ's character, which one would you choose?  Why?

3. Read Ephesians 5:1-2.  Do you think Jesus can empower you to actually imitate Christ in your daily life?  Why or why not?  

4. What are areas where you need to grow to have Christ-like character?  In other words, what are things you see Jesus doing regularly that you want to see in your life?  

Stewardship:

1. We all have 3 major things that we can use to bring glory to God and bless others.  Your time (availability), talent (Gifts and abilities), and treasures (Your money and stuff). Why do you think we struggle to give generously with our time, talent, and treasure?  Why does selfishness run so rampant in our world?

2. We are going to make a list together of all the different ways a student can use their time, talent, and treasures that can bless your family, school, church, community, etc.  So, taking one category at a time, let’s make a big list of specific ways we can be a blessing. (Make sure you don’t forget to talk about how you can use those things to SHARE THE GOSPEL with you actions AND words)

3. After looking at the list we just made and thinking about your own life, what are some specific things God is calling you to use to bless others?

October 27 - November 1, 2016

Discussion Questions:

1. Is having a strong foundation important? Why or why not?

2.  Do you feel like you have a strong foundation in Jesus?  Why or why not?

3.  Which is more difficult for you? Faith in Jesus? Or obedience to Jesus? Why is that?

4.  How are you doing in abiding in Christ?

5.  What are some ways that you stay connected to God? Make it as practical and specific as possible.

6.  What is a step you can take tomorrow to abide in Christ?

7.  How can our family support one another in building a foundation in Jesus and abiding in Jesus?

October 20 - 26, 2016

MS Questions:

1. According to the world and culture around us, what does it mean to be a man?  What is manhood?

2. According to what we see in God’s word, what are some places where the world is off the mark, and where are some places where they are saying the same thing?

3. What pressures do guys face in today's day and age?

4. Why is character such an important part about being a man?

5. How do you encourage the guys around you to be more Christ like?  

HS Questions:

1. In your own words, what is our culture’s message about sex? 

2. What do you think God’s perspective on sex is?  Why do you think God puts boundaries around the gift of sex?

3. Read 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

4. Based on this passage, what is it that God wants our lives to look like? 

5. What do you think your sex life will look like if you obey God’s teachings found here?

6. What do you think are the consequences of disobeying God’s teaching? 

October 12 - 18, 2016

MS Questions:

1. How do you see these aspects of womanhood being exploited our culture or around you? (women are relational, women want to be pursued, and women long to be beautiful and to have beauty to unveil)

2. What can we do to honor these aspects of womanhood?

3. What does it mean to seek true beauty? (1 Peter 3:3-4)

4. How does this scripture redirect our focus?  

5. What is tough about being a girl in this day and age?  What lies are they being fed?

6. What encouragement and direction do we find in Proverbs 31 about how we should treat women?

7.  What are some ways to encourage the guys around you to treat girls that way God wants them to be treated? (Even if they don’t believe in Jesus)

HS Questions:

1. What are some of the qualities of a good friend?

2.  Have you ever thought of the importance of building a friendship with someone you might be interested in before jumping in to dating them?

3.  Why might this foundational friendship be important to build first?

4.  How important is it to invest time—in others’ interests, in meeting the needs of others—if you want to build a good friendship with someone? Why?

5.  Why is selflessness important in a good friendship?  How does that translate into a dating relationship?

6.  How important is it that you trust your friends? Why?

7.  What are some ways to build trust? (Tell the truth, be reliable, keep confidences)

October 5 - October 12, 2016

MS Questions:

1. We talked tonight about purity paving the way to intimacy.  What do you think about that? How does that work in practice?

2. What are some of the pressures you are feeling when it comes to love, sex, and dating?

3. The Bible tells us to “flee immorality”, what does that look like to you in your world?

4. How can we honor God and walk towards purity?  

5. What is God asking you to do?  What is the step of obedience that you should take?

HS Questions:

1. Imagine that Nathan and Jack had asked you to guest speak during Wednesday night on dating. What would you have told everyone?

Hand everyone a sheet of paper and a pen.

2. If you were really honest with yourself, whose kingdom are you seeking or building with your dating life, yours or God’s? Write your answer on the top of your paper if you feel comfortable doing so.

3. The speaker talked about our life being written as a book one day and that in this book there would be a chapter titled, “dating”. Write down a few words that you think describe what that chapter would be about if it was written right now about your dating life. Why did you write down those words?

4. On that same sheet of paper write down some words that you want to describe your “dating” chapter.  What might need to change in your life to allow God to make these words a reality for your “dating” chapter?

5. What questions do you all have about dating?

6. Based on tonight’s conversation, what is a specific step you want to take to allow God to lead in your dating life?

September 21 - September 27, 2016

Wednesday September 21

No Bridge 9/21

September 14 - September 21, 2016

Wednesday September 14 - The Death of Me Week Four

  • What is the definition of legalism? What is the definition of hypocrisy? And how would you put those two terms in your own words?
  • Which is easier to find yourself caving in to: Legalism (wrong beliefs, right actions), or Hypocrisy (right beliefs, wrong actions)?
  • What does the Bible say is the proper response?
  • What are some things that we need to change in our thinking?

September 7 - September 13, 2016

Wednesday September 7 - The Death of Me Week Three

  • When you think of the word “comfort”, what comes to mind?
  • When Jesus asks us to “go and make disciples”, what is your initial reaction?
  • Is getting out of our comfort zone important? Why or why not?
  • What would it look like for you to get outside of your comfort zone when it comes to the way you talk about Jesus?
  • What are some practical steps you can take this week to truly follow what Jesus is asking of us?
  • How can we support one another as we die to our comforts?
  • What encouragement do we find from scripture when it comes to getting outside our comfort zone?
  • Who is a person that you would like to reach with the good news of Jesus Christ?

August 31 - September 6, 2016

Wednesday August 31 - The Death of Me Week Two

  • What would your classrooms, your sports teams, your dating relationship look like if you walked with the Spirit instead of following the desires of the flesh?
  • Galatians 5:22 gave some great fruits of the Spirit? What makes it hard to get that fruit in our day to day lives?  What could be preventing us from it?
  • What does it look like to “walk by the Spirit”? Give some practical examples.
  • What are some of your desires that need to die? What are some desires of the flesh that people may have?

August 17 -23, 2016

Wednesday August 17th - The Death of Me Week One

Here are some questions we sent home with your student: 

  • Where are you tempted to tell yourself that you’re wiser than God? 
  • Where do you argue that your plan for you is better than God’s plan for you? 
  • Where do you convince yourself that it makes sense to step over one of God's boundaries, to ignore his guidance? 
  • Where are you tempted to say a sin is not big deal, that it isn’t really sin? 
  • Where do you decide to do things your way in life without even asking God what he would want you to do?

Prayer for this week:

Jesus lead me to die to myself so that I may truly live

July 21 -27, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 9

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

July 14 - 20, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 8

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

July 7 - 13, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 7

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

June 30 - July 6, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 6

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

June 16 - 22, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 5

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

June 9 -15. 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 4

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

June 2 - 8, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 3

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

May 26 - June 1, 2016

Table Talks:

Read Romans 2

  • What are some things that you observe in this passage?
  • What is Paul telling the Roman church in this passage?
  • What does this passage tell you about Jesus?
  • How does this passage apply to you, today?
  • What are some changes that you can make today that reflect what God says in this passage?

Week of January 17, 2018

Series Overview:

Guardrails. They're everywhere, whether we need them to be or not. The thing about guardrails is that we don't need them . . . until we do. And when we need one, it can be the difference between life and death. Ever wonder what it would be like to have guardrails in other areas of your life-areas where culture baits you to the edge of disaster and then chastises you when you step across the line?  Maybe your greatest regret could have been avoided if you had established guardrails.

Goals:

What we want students to KNOW: What wisdom really means and what it looks like.  That there is a major benefit to putting up guardrails in your life.  

What we want students to FEEL:Jesus died so that they could have eternal life AND life to the fullest, and that fullest comes from putting guardrails in our life.  To feel the tension between what we often selfishly WANT and what the wise thing would be to do.

What we want students to DO: To evaluate their life and check for guardrails, and put some up if they aren’t there.  Build an accountability system within their friendships.

Message Overview:

Have you ever met someone that you later regret meeting? Friendships can have such a powerful effect in our life, and when we look in our past we see how much our friends shape who we are and where we are.  Tonight, we look at the power of friendships and how our friendships can often cause us to ignore guardrails in our own life.

SG Main Idea: Friends can determine the quality and direction of our life.

Main Passage:Ephesians 5:15-18, Proverbs 13:20

SG Questions: 

  1. Who is someone in your life that has stood by you in good times and bad times?
  2. Describe a time when you saw someone suffer because of his or her relationships.  What happened?
  3. Read Proverbs 13:20.  Who is a person in your life whose wisdom you rely on?  In what ways have you seen their wisdom rub off on you?
  4. If you were to map your friends in the Circle of Influence. Where would you put them?
  5. Considering the friends you have NOW, where do you see your life going?
  6. Is there any friends that have more influence but NEED to have less influence in your life?
  7. What guardrails do you need to put up in your friendships?

Week of January 24, 2018

GUARDRAILS - WEEK THREE

Series Overview:

Guardrails. They're everywhere, whether we need them to be or not. The thing about guardrails is that we don't need them . . . until we do. And when we need one, it can be the difference between life and death. Ever wonder what it would be like to have guardrails in other areas of your life-areas where culture baits you to the edge of disaster and then chastises you when you step across the line?  Maybe your greatest regret could have been avoided if you had established guardrails.

Goals:

What we want students to KNOW: What wisdom really means and what it looks like.  That there is a major benefit to putting up guardrails in your life.  

What we want students to FEEL:Jesus died so that they could have eternal life AND life to the fullest, and that fullest comes from putting guardrails in our life.  To feel the tension between what we often selfishly WANT and what the wise thing would be to do.

What we want students to DO: To evaluate their life and check for guardrails, and put some up if they aren’t there.  Build an accountability system within their friendships.

Message Overview:

Our heart is the most important part of who we are.  Our heart controls our thoughts, words, actions, and deeds; it is our control center.  If it is so important, why don’t we take better care of our hearts? Tonight, we talk about ways in which we can put up guardrails to guard our heart.

SG Main Idea: Everything is an outflow of our heart.

Main Passage:Ephesians 5:15-18, Proverbs 4:23, Matthew 15

SG Questions: 

  1. When have you seen someone blow something up (relationships, grades, friendships, careers, etc) when something on their INSIDE got loose on the OUTSIDE?
  2. Read Proverbs 4:23.  What connections do you see between what’s in your heart and the way you behave?  How has what’s in your heart influenced your relationships with others? How has it influenced your relationship with God?
  3. Do any of these emotions ding your heart? (Guilt, Anger, Greed, Jealousy)  Is it an emotion that stays in there for a while or one that comes and goes? Why is that?
  4. What response to the emotions is the toughest for you? (Confess, Forgive, Give, Celebrate)  Why is that?
  5. When it comes to your relationship with God…how do you feel you are doing with those responses? Do you confess to God? Do you accept God’s forgiveness? Do you give to God? Do you celebrate what God has done?  How does this affect your relationship with God?
  6. What’s one thing you can do this week to establish a guardrail to guard your heart?  How can this group support you?

Week of February 7, 2018

BRIDGE - FEBRUARY 7, 2018

Message Overview:

We are all fans of someone.  For some, it’s a star athlete on our favorite team.  For others, it’s an actor or a musician.  When we are fans of someone, we might know a lot ABOUT them, but we don’t actually know them.  We may know a lot of facts, or a bunch of quotes, but we don’t really know their heart.  Unfortunately, that can be the case in our relationship with Jesus.  We may know a lot about Jesus, and still not actually KNOW Jesus.  Tonight we talk about it means to be known by God and to know God, and how just doing “church” doesn’t mean that we actually know God.

Bible Passage: Matthew 7:21-23

Main Idea: Doing “church” instead of being known by and knowing God

SG Questions: 

  1. COMPLETE THE BIBLE APP DEVOTIONAL PLAN PROCESS.  Add students as a friend and then invite them to the devotional right then and there.  Spend the time needed to get that setup.
  2. What’s the difference between being a fan and being a friend?  Give an example of someone you’re a fan of and another example of a friend.
  3. Is it possible to go to church regularly, to be involved, and not actually know God? Why or why not?
  4. Is God more concerned with us knowing His rules and teachings or with us actually having a relationship with Him? Explain why.
  5. What are signs that someone has an actual relationship with Jesus?  How do we know if we KNOW God?
  6. What does it look like to be known by God? What are some things that we have to do in order to be known by God?
  7. What’s a step you need to take in order to actually KNOW God?

Week of February 14, 2018

HS - NO STRINGS ATTACHED WEEK ONE

Series Overview:

The message is louder than ever from our world that we can date casually and hook up as much as possible with No Strings attached.  But is that really true?  God's message to us is that our relationships, especially romantic ones or even one night hook ups have strings that powerfully impact us physically, spiritually, and emotionally.  So, we will seek God's wisdom on the purpose of dating, how to date well, set physical boundaries, and be the person your looking for is looking for.  

Message Overview:

When it comes to dating relationships, what is the purpose?  Dating has a powerful impact on our lives, so its imperative to seek God's wisdom on how we can date intentionally in a way that honors the incredible purpose God has for each one of us.

Bible Passage: Matthew 22:37-39; Ephesians 5:21-33

HSSG Questions: 

1. Have you seen others approach dating either too casually or way to seriously as an idol?  What was the result?

2. How do you think technology has impacted the way that students approach dating?  Do you think it has made things better or worse? 

3. God says the purpose of our lives is to love God with everything we have and to love our neighbor as our self.  How can a dating relationship help or hinder your ability to love God and others?  

4. If the purpose of dating is to set you up for a marriage that displays the love of God, how should that impact the way you approach dating now?  (Like, when should you start dating?  How much time should you spend alone?  What physical boundaries should you set up? How can you pursue God together?  How can you challenge each other to love others, Etc.)  Be as specific as possible.

5. Nate talked about how blindly following our feelings in a relationship can lead to disaster which is why following God's lead in dating is essential, even though it will be difficult.  If you really followed God's wisdom in dating, what would be most difficult?  What would be most rewarding?

MS - LOVE AND RESPECT WEEK ONE

Series Overview:

If I told you to love and respect another person, where would you start? What would that look like?  Love and respect feels like it is in short supply in our world today, and often we are all working with different definitions of those words.  During this series, we want to challenge our middle school students on the meaning and application of the words “love” and “respect”.

Message Overview:

Tonight we begin with an overview of love and respect.  We see that what the world is selling is falls short.  Where we often see love and respect modeled, it too falls short.  We are looking in the wrong place, and we need to turn to THE expert.  God.  God created us and He modeled love and respect.

Bible Passage: Genesis 1:27, Romans 6:17, 1 Timothy 4:12

MS SG Questions: 

1. How would you define “love”?

2.  How would you define “respect”?

3. Clearly how God models love and respect is different than how the world models love and respect.  What are some of the big differences between them?

4. What keeps US from modeling biblical love and biblical respect?

5. What keeps YOU from modeling biblical love and biblical respect? Which area do you have the toughest time with? Is there a particular person/situation where you struggle showing love and respect?

6.  How is our group doing in showing love and respect on Wednesday nights (the whole night…not just small groups)?

7. How can we keep each other accountable as we strive to love and respect others?

Week of February 21, 2018

HS - NO STRINGS ATTACHED WEEK TWO

Series Overview:

The message is louder than ever from our world that we can date casually and hook up as much as possible with No Strings attached.  But is that really true?  God's message to us is that our relationships, especially romantic ones or even one night hook ups have strings that powerfully impact us physically, spiritually, and emotionally.  So, we will seek God's wisdom on the purpose of dating, how to date well, set physical boundaries, and be the person your looking for is looking for.  

Message Overview:

We are going to talk about what makes a great relationship. We often have a bad picture about what builds great relationships. Great relationships start with working on yourself and great relationships happen when they progress in order.

Bible Passage: Prov. 4:23, 1 cor. 6:16-20, Isa. 1:8, Rom. 8:38-39

HSSG Questions: 

  • What in your mind is the picture of great relationships? 
  • What lies do you believe about great relationships? 
  • Does the way you date and the habits you build now, do they have an effect on your future relationships? 
  • What did you learn from the Relationship Attachment Model? 
  • What is out of order for you? 
  • What of the 5 C’s do you think is most important? 
  • Which ways are you going to grow? 
  • What is one thing you are going to take away? 
  • What is one thing God is calling you to obey about what you have learned tonight?  

MS - LOVE AND RESPECT WEEK TWO

Series Overview:

If I told you to love and respect another person, where would you start? What would that look like?  Love and respect feels like it is in short supply in our world today, and often we are all working with different definitions of those words.  During this series, we want to challenge our middle school students on the meaning and application of the words “love” and “respect”.

Message Overview:

Love and respect are important, but there areas of love and respect that are particularly challenging for men.  Tonight we look to see how men are called to respect and love those around them.

Bible Passage: Micah 6:6-8

MS GUYS SG Questions: 

1. What’s the difference between acting like a boy and acting like a man? What examples have you seen?

2. How does our culture talk about manhood?

3. How is that different from how the Bible talks about manhood?

4. Looking at Micah 6:8, which is the hardest action step for you? (justice, kindness, or humility).  Why is that?

5. What’s a step you can take to be better at one or all of those?

6. How are you doing at loving and respecting other guys around you? How could you improve?

7. How can our group keep each other accountable to act like then men described in Micah 6:8?

MS GIRLS SG Questions: 

1. What’s the difference between acting like a boy and acting like a man? What examples have you seen?

2. How does our culture talk about manhood?

3. How is that different from how the Bible talks about manhood?

4. Looking at Micah 6:8, how do we encourage the guys around us to value these things? (justice, kindness, or humility).

5. What’s a step you can take to be better at modeling one or all of those?

6. How are you doing at loving and respecting guys around you? How could you improve?

7. How can you help keep guys accountable to act like then men described in Micah 6:8?

Week of February 28, 2018

MS - LOVE AND RESPECT WEEK THREE

Series Overview:

If I told you to love and respect another person, where would you start? What would that look like?  Love and respect feels like it is in short supply in our world today, and often we are all working with different definitions of those words.  During this series, we want to challenge our middle school students on the meaning and application of the words “love” and “respect”.

Message Overview:

Love and respect are important, but they do not come unless we are putting our worth in Christ, not the things of this world. This is especially difficult for women, and tonight we look at how we can show respect to the women around us.

Bible Passage: 1 John 3:1

MS GUYS SG Questions: 

  1. What are the things in the world you often find your worth in? (image, relationships, accomplishments?)
  2. What insecurities do you struggle the most with? (self-confidence, fear of rejection, or not feeling good enough)
  3. What were some practical ways you struggle with this? You can think about the examples Helen used as ideas.
  4. What’s a step you can take to be better at this?
  5. How are you doing at loving and respecting the women around you? How could you improve?
  6. How can our group keep each other accountable to treat the women around us with love and respect?

MS GIRLS SG Questions: 

  1. What are the things in the world you often find your worth in? (image, relationships, accomplishments?)
  2. What insecurities do you struggle the most with? (self-confidence, fear of rejection, or not feeling good enough)
  3. What were some practical ways you struggle with this? You can think about the examples Helen used as ideas.
  4. What’s a step you can take to be better at this?
  5. How are you doing at loving and respecting the girls around in, both in your friend groups and not? How can you improve?
  6. How can our group keep each other accountable to treat the women around us with love and respect?

Week of March 28, 2018

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2017-2018 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

Hard times are coming.  It’s not a matter of IF but WHEN.  How we respond to hard times in our life can drastically change the trajectory of our life.  Tonight, through the example of two of our students we see different circumstances but the same response of turning towards community during a hard time.  Jesus gives us community, but too often we don’t utilize the community around us, and we avoid the hard times.  The reality is that these hard times in our life is often what shapes our character and our view of the world around us. 

Bible Passage: Romans 5:3-5

SG Questions:

  1. Read Romans 5:3-5.  What does glory in our sufferings mean?
  2. When we are going through hard times, what DO we have control of? How does that affect our response to hard times?
  3. Do you tend to let people in during hard times in life or do you tend to keep them at a distance? Why is that? 
  4. How can we rely on each other more during hard times?
  5. How do the hard times in our life produce character?
  6. How does character produce hope?
  7. Looking at the fruit of your character…are you producing hope? Why or why not?

Week of April 4, 2018

 Yearbook - Week 2

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2017-2018 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

What does it mean to “know” someone? What does it really mean? Our current culture has a very surface level idea of knowing someone and being known by someone.  We value relationships, but we often are unwilling to put the work in.  We SAY that we care, but we don’t put any actions that PROVE that we care.  This isn't just the case in our horizontal relationships, but it’s true of our vertical relationship with God.  Do we actually KNOW God? Or are we just mouthing the words without our heart and actions backing it up? Tonight, one of our seniors talks to us about knowing God.

Bible Passage: Psalm 116

SG Questions:

  1. Read Psalm 116.  Which verse speaks to you the most? Why is that?
  2. What does it mean to know someone? How do you measure how well you know someone?
  3. How can we know an eternal all powerful God? Is it the same as knowing a friend in your class? Why or why not?
  4. Is it possible to trust in Jesus for eternal life and still not KNOW God? Why or why not?
  5. Do we lose anything if we only trust Jesus for eternal life and not for our daily life? Why or why not?
  6. When you look at Psalm 116, what action words do you see in the passage? How do those actions relate to knowing God?
  7. Looking at your own relationship with God…where is it at? What areas are you missing in your relationship? How could you strengthen the relationship?
  8. How could we ask each other about our relationship with Jesus?

Week of April 11, 2018

 Yearbook - Week 3

Series Overview:

Our Yearbooks reveal a lot about our lives for one school year. It’s a snapshot of our world at the time, and even has a lot to say about who we are. By now most of the pages of your yearbook are written. What would people say about you? What secrets would be revealed? What wise and unwise choices did you make? What difference did you make? What regrets do you have? How would you be remembered? What did you learn this year?As we conclude the 2017-2018 school year, we will invite several high school to speak to their peers about the stories God has written on their hearts over the course of the school year.

Message Overview:

Words are powerful.  They give direction and purpose to our life, and they affect our identity.  God gives us powerful words throughout scripture that supply us with the perfect direction, purpose, and identity to build our life upon.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t always play out that way for us.  Instead of keeping God’s word in our hearts, we often keep the negative words and lies from others inside.  Those lies that we hear from others, they affect us deep down.  Those words affect our identity, how we see ourselves, and that affects the way we interact with the world around us.  Tonight we talk about how those words can shape our life.

Bible Passage: James 3:5-9, Ephesians 2:10, Psalm 139

SG Questions:

  1. Read James 3:5-9.  Which verse speaks to you the most? Why is that?
  2. Give an example of the power of the tongue.
  3. How have you seen the tongue be used in a positive powerful personal way?
  4. How have you seen the tongue be used in a negative personal way?
  5. Do words affect our identity? Why or why not?
  6. What lies are you believing about yourself right now?  What role does community play in helping you navigate those lies? What role SHOULD community play in helping you navigate those lies?
  7. Look at the quality of words you speak? Are they doing more harm than good? How do you know?
  8. How can our group support each other with truthful positive words?